Hey good man here with an Authentic Talk Note. We're talking about something in
group that often comes up with us men is how to be vulnerable? That's something
that we do not readily do and we're not available to and it's actually can be seen as a weakness in our culture for men.
One thing that we talked about was, how are we making space to be vulnerable
with our number twos and our number three's? This is something that if we're not
careful we'll just go through life as partners as having fun, as trying to get things
done and we won't actually talk about what's going on inside of our heart on a day-
to-day basis.
So really just passing that around and saying “what's it look like to contemplate
what we actually feel”. Men sometimes won't even know what they feel, won't
even know how to be vulnerable because we don't slow down enough to think
about it.
CALL TO AUTHENTICITY!
So really encourage you as the call to authenticity today. Pour it into that number
two which is; the significant other relationship and that number three which is;
your best friend relationships.
There's only two or three people in our lives that we're really pouring into and this
level where we're saying “this is how I feel, this is what I'm worried about, this is
what I I'm excited about, these are things that are going on in my heart, these are
transitions that I'm feeling. like if I don't pay attention to I'm gonna get stuck and
potentially even make some negative decisions; that would cause some harm in my
life”
So really Call to Authenticity is saying “let's make space.” Think about when's the
last time you got vulnerable with your number two and three and then think about
the next time that you're gonna bring something of value to the relationship.
“Hey this is something I'm contemplating for me”. Keep it in your core, it's not
about them, it's not about the world around us, it's about what's going on in your
heart. It doesn't have to be good. Chances are, it may not be good because we don't
talk about the things that are really straining us that often. So I really call you to
do that.
CIRCLE OF RELATIONSHIPS AND S.P.I.E.S
As far as Circle of Relationships go, we're relating to the one, two and three, but
really coming from our heart. We're not looking to fix anybody else. But we're just
looking to be vulnerable, just be raw and real and that's what we love about these
group processes.
Because it really allows us to get that way. It's almost like a practice ground,
almost like a place that we can do it and then know how to do it because us men
really struggle with that.
As far as S.P.I.E.S or holistic health goes, we’re looking at emotional health here
and social health. How do we take our emotions and apply them to the
relationships that really matter, that are going to be sustainable and significant for
the rest of our lives?