Hey good man here with an Authentic Talk Note. We suck at vulnerability. That's
how we are as men, we've been raised to not share our thoughts and feelings. We
don't even sometimes know what our feelings are, it's more like the thought and
the cognition and trying to make things work and plan out and make sure that the
equations all lined up.
Before we’ll even share something or will do it very actively because we've been
trying to bottle it for so long and it's something that we really see an AMG as a
huge piece of why we do what we do here because men are able to get vulnerable
for 90 minutes a week but they've scheduled it, they're bringing their life in.
And they're saying “this is how I feel about this, this is what I see going on here
and this is what I like what I don't like.” And just being okay to be vulnerable and
real and just express yourself without having to worry about, what's the answer.
How do I come up with a plan for this?
No it's just about sharing and what that allows is for true intimacy, true connection
and that bleeds into our other relationships once we learn how to do it for
ourselves. But don't feel bad as a guy when it's difficult to come up with your
feelings, it's difficult to come up with the why things are happening?
Or you know really just processing openly without feeling guilt and shame. It’s a
pretty big deal for guys and really encourage you to get into a setting like this and
start practicing that vulnerability, because there's really some of the only way is to
start engaging with it and seeing other people be vulnerable as well is a great way
to learn how to do that.
CALL TO AUTHENTICITY!
So Call To Authenticity. If you really struggle being vulnerable if you struggle
with sharing your feelings struggle with even knowing your own feelings struggle
with explaining the why of things. It's really important to get into a room and just
process that stuff out as much as guys would say “no I'd rather fix things.”
CIRCLE OF RELATIONSHIPS & S.P.I.E.S
That's not the case, that's not how you have deep and meaningful relationships you
can't fix everything and sometimes you just got to be and be okay and share. As
far as Circle of Relationships go, really got the Number 1 because this impacts the
Number 2s and Number 3s those are our intimate relationships right our
significant other and then our best friends.
Those people that we are deep and meaningful with and we're sharing those
vulnerable moments with and purposefully, choosing to go there rather than
reacting to our life. So really looking at those key relationships 1, 2 & 3.
As far as this the S.P.I.E.S go or holistic health we're really looking at emotional
health, we're looking at social health. How are those playing with each other?
Spiritual health, being okay with ourselves enough to share our feelings and our
emotions, so that we can't have those intimate relationships. Alright there's the
ATN for today. Go ahead and be vulnerable, talk to you next time.